This can sometimes lead to hurt feelings for your brother and sister and sometimes even me, daddy, and everybody else. I did try to gently tell you to watch what you say, but as this had no effect, I then said "sometimes you have a really big mouth.. It can hurt people's feelings if you say things that make them feel like they didn't get what you got.. you have to watch what you say and think about it before you say it. "
Could I have said this better? Yes. But as beautifully and delicately as I could have phrased it, a frequent message I am giving you with warnings, looks, and often just a "ruby..." is a simple one in words: Stop being mean.
You are beautiful and smart. You are so talented with singing and art, organizing the shelf over your bed so that it is "just so". Your heart is loving and kind. That's what I want you to use and appreciate.
I know your heart, and it is good. I want you to know it too.
Anyway....
Last night, you were reading a favorite book to Henry, "Mitchell's License". It is a book about a little boy who pretends his dad is a car and drives him around. You guys crack up when I read it. It is very cute.
While you were reading, you started getting silly and not really reading, but saying the words very slowly and gibberishly. The little guys lost interest and I asked to finish the book but you just laughed. I said "ruby I love it when you read but you can't be so silly, they stop listening..." You got very upset and cried. I apologized and said "even mommies say the wrong thing sometimes, baby. I'm sorry I hurt your feelings". You looked at me and said ..
"Sometimes YOU have a big mouth too mama!" And you grinned. Then we got cracking up about me and MY big mouth. I said maybe that's where you got It from. :)
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